This has been a pretty boring week for me. I spent a lot of time by myself, which I don't mind because I like being alone but I dislike being lonely.
Anonymous Asked:
I feel like an outsider with my friends.
I'm always the one in the group being ignored, the one who's always left
out, the one who's just kinda "there". If that makes sense. I honestly
try so hard to be their friends. I have no idea what to do, and I feel
like no matter what I do, it doesn't matter and that I'm not good
enough, not funny enough, not pretty enough, or not outgoing enough. Any
advice please, I could really use it.
Dear Anonymous,
Sometimes you have to stop trying so hard and just be yourself. Don't
worry about be the funny, pretty or outgoing and just be you. Sometimes
you get so caught up in trying to be things and you forget to be
yourself. The reason they became friends with you is who you are and not
who they want. If it's hard to be friends with them then maybe they're
just not the people you should be friends with.
I moved in the middle of 3rd grade and all these girls at my new school
already had their own group and even though they tried to include me, I
still felt like an outsider, so I do understand how you feel.
When we went to junior high, I made new friends, people I actually fit in with and never had to feel like I was trying.
Friends are suppose to make you feel comfortable, and make you feel like
you belong. If you don't feel that way then you should think about
making new friends especially if you can't seem to make it work with
your current friends.
Anonymous Asked:
I lost my best friend for a stupid reason, what do I do?
I've been really good friends with this guy since grade six (I'm in
grade 11) him and I have always been great friends. He would bike to my
house, come to family things, and we would text all the time. In grade
seven he told me he liked me but I said I was too young and just wanted
to be friends. He was totally cool with it. Although I knew he still
liked me for all these years I ignored it and when he told me I said I
just want to be friends. When you are friends for so long you can't see
anything past friends. Anyway he texted me about a month and half ago
and we had this huge conversation about him liking me and he said "I'd
rather be friends with you than nothing at all" (I have texts to prove
it). Anyway, I told him the same thing I always have. And so he's like "I'm
going to bed night don't text me." So I said "I'm really sorry but i just
don't feel the same." And he hasn't talked to me since that night. He won't
look at me and we sit together in math (have for two weeks) and he
hasn't said a single word to me. When my friends ask whats up with us he
tells them that I'm not worth words. It hurts so much too loose my best guy
friend like this. What can I do?
Dear Anonymous,
Sometimes you do have to wait for the storm to pass. I basically lost my
best friend in a very similar way not too recently as well. I always
thought our friendship was strong enough to get through anything and I
would tell people that we would get through this. This being his
feelings for me and me not having feelings for him. It came to the point
where he would start dodging me, ignoring phone calls and even lying to
me saying he's too sick to hangout and then finding out that he had
gone out his coworkers to the casino, yeah he was totally sick that
night.
I know how you're feeling but you also have to understand how he's
feeling. The girl he basically loves and fell for over the years turns
him down. When you turned him down the first time, saying you were too
young, it still gave him some hope that when you two were older that
maybe you two could one be in a relationship. That conversation you two
had the night left him brokenhearted so I'm guessing that he is
currently feeling like he wasted his time hoping to get the girl one
day.
Right now, as much as you are hurting, he's hurting too and the only
thing you can really do is hope he comes around and wants to be your
friend. He'll talk to you when he's ready but if feel like you have
something to say him then you should say it. Even if he doesn't talk.
Anonymous Asked:
Should I call things off or no?
I am 100% against weed and I have told my boyfriend that many time. We've
been dating for 1 year and 2 months, but last October I found out that
he had smoked weed for the first time with his friends in June and lied
about it for 3 months. Not to make it any better, I had found out from
my best friend, his mutual friend after I had asked said friend to ask
him because I felt like he was lying. I freaked out and told him that if
he does it again, everything is over, even though that's what I said to
him before I found out that he had done drugs the first time. Then,
about 4 weeks ago, I was at his house for his mother's birthday party. I
was talking to his cousin and she told me that he had smoked no less
than 2 weeks ago and once again, I'd been lied to and found out from
another person. I confronted him about it and he said he had done it a
total of 3 times, 2 times in the past 2 or 3 weeks. He said it was
because our relationship had been stressing him out considering that
ever since I had found out the first time, I randomly got angry. He said
that him smoking was indirectly my fault and that he would try to quit.
Should I end things now, or let it go?
Dear Anonymous,
If it's something you're against then you should end things now. He is
using the relationship as an excuse to smoke just because things are a
little rocky when they don't have to be. It's all just excuses. I've
dated a guy who smoked weed and said he'd quit for me and he would but
he'd do it again. We didn't break up because he smoked it, I could care
less at the time but I did get tired of broken promises. So take it from
me, end before you start to resent each other.
Be Beautiful For You
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