Friday: Extreme Weight Loss; Again and Again; Changing for a Guy

Happy Friday! It's the weekend, I have a lot of things to do this weekend. I have family to see and places to be. I hope everyone has a lovely weekend. Onto some advice!


Anonymous Asked: 
Is this good? Or bad? Or too extreme?
I'm 13 and 5'3 and currently weigh 125. I heard that if you skip breakfast and lunch and only eat dinner for one week you lose ten pounds. I want to be 85 pounds. So I would do that diet for 4 weeks. Is it Bad? I just want to lose weight then go back to eating healthy and exercise.

Dear Anonymous,
That's too extreme. And that is not a diet, that is a form starving yourself. Your body is still developing and you are going to be gaining and losing weight for the next few years. You need nutrient and to be healthy, and exercising regularly. When I was your age, I did what you are thinking about doing but the only thing is, I did it up until my junior year of high school. Sure you say you're only going to do it for four weeks but it's hard to go back to eating healthy and exercising.
It made me sick some days and weak, that I had to miss school. I wouldn't want other girls going through the same thing I went through. You don't need to lose that much weight, you don't need to be down to 85lbs. If you're feeling overweight or flabby in some areas of your body, aim to tone those areas not to lose the weight. Eat healthy, exercise regularly, and most importantly don't let the numbers on a scale control how you feel about your body.

My Guys: High School Concluded

Along time ago I realized there are guys I hangout with because I enjoy their company and there are guys I hangout with because I feel safe with them. I hang out with a lot of guys but that doesn't mean I want to date them. I love my guys. A couple weeks ago, I was having lunch with my family and my uncle asked me where the boys were and I replied with "which group of boys uncle?"

I have different groups of boys. I try my best not to mix them but somehow I end up having one from every group hang out with me when I get together with my guys. I sincerely love these different groups of guys. They all know how to bring a smile to my face and some warmth in my heart. They've all grown on me over the years, months and even days. Not only have they made an impact on me over the years but I've made an impact on them as well. Connor knows that no girl will love him the way I do. Chris knows that if there's one girl he can go to besides his mom, it'll always be me. And Dave knows that I'll always be around to cheer him up, and to remind him that there's always something to live for. I believe those were all the guys that made an impact in my life in high school and still have a place in my life today. 

Starting next Thursday, I'll talk about the guys that have been with me since starting my college days. All of these men helped me become the independent, crazy, bossy, talkative, girl I am today. They taught me how to think like them in order to understand where a guy is coming from when he does or says something. 

These guys haven't always made my life easy, but they do make it an adventure for me everyday. They also remind me how beautiful I am. 

Be Beautiful For You

Walk The Line: June Carter Cash

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A Love Like That

I don't know how many romantic movies I've watched over the years but there's something about them that makes me want to have a love like that. From Jack and Rose to Johnny Cash and June Carter, I want a love that will go down in history. At least my own history, my family history. I want my children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren to know that true love exist. I want them to know the story of my greatest love, my other half, and how we came together and how we stayed together. I want to give them and others something to believe in. I know my life isn't a movie, and that's okay but I want my life to be a story to tell.
When that happens though, I plan to write about it. I want to remember it and so I will blog about my dates, my relationships but only to remember what they were like, and how I felt when everything was happening. I want that beautiful fairytale one day.
Be Beautiful For You

Summertime Blues

I know that most of you are on summer vacation and I know that summer can also drag on when you're stuck at home. You are either alone or you have siblings, but hopefully you have friends nearby or friends who can drive or you can drive. Whatever the case or situation you're in this summer, don't let boredom bring you down. I've come up with a list of things to do this summer.
Stop the boredom:
~Road Trip

I spent Sunday giving a friend a tour of Seattle like he's never seen it before

~Camping Trip
~Day at the Beach or Lake
~Day Hike
~Trip to the Zoo, Aquarium, or Museum
~Trip to the City, act like a tourist or go on a tour; there's a difference between going to the city and exploring the city.

Friday: Before It's Too Late; Party Ideas; Talking to Others

Happy Friday! For those of you on summer vacation, I hope you have a great summer. Unlike me who has this weekend and then I'm going back to school on Monday. Summer quarter will not be fun but I'm almost done with my degree so it's all good!

CountryLover027 Asked:
I regret saying it to him.
I thought I could get over him and I was mad at home so I told him I hated him but now I regret it so much. Now I think I pushed him away, help?

Dear CountryLover027,
I've said I hate you to the guy I love tons of times when we fought because I was mad at him and of course I never meant it. There was this time where he did something that I thought I could never forgive him so I told him to never talk to me again and I told him I hated him. The next day I went up to him and I said you know I could never truly hate you.
You have to let him know how you feel before you really do push him away for good. I know I don't know the whole story between the two of you but if you're afraid to lose someone you have to let them know before it's too late.

My Guys: Phil

If there's been one person that has been constant through my life, besides Tyler, it would have to be Phil. Phil and I met at a summer program in fifth grade I believe and we'd always see each other during school breaks and then when we hit junior high, we finally went to the same school. Phil is one of my good friends and he's always protected me. When guys were messing with me, I always went to Phil and he would always have a talk with them, and by talk I mean stern words followed with a threat to beat the crap out of them. And this is why no messed with me, well besides Trevor and Austin of course, Phil put the fear of God in these boys' heads when I told him to.
It's always good to have a friend who can scare people but don't take them for granted. Respect them, show them that you do enjoy having them around, let them be in your life and always check in with them if you haven't heard from them in awhile. People that seem you wouldn't be friends with actually make pretty good friends.
In fact, I know I can always count on Phil when I need someone to talk to or if I need to ask someone for a favor, he's the first person I go to. He's sincerely one of my best friends. This is one guy I can count on for all my life. He's a beautiful person, inside and out.
Be Beautiful For You

Gossip Inspired: Blair Waldorf

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I'm going crazy without any new episodes of Gossip Girl, this is going to be a long summer.
Be Beautiful For You

My Confidence

A couple days ago I had a party and of course there were a lot of guys. One of my girl friends pulled me aside and said that I had a lot of good looking guy friends. Now there's no doubt that I have really attractive guy friends, and I think being able to talk to them without worrying about what they think is part of how I've gained my confidence over the years. I know that I've had more than my fair share of guys in my life but it's the ones that have stuck with me, or even the ones that don't talk to me for some time but can still talk to me like no time has passed.
My confidence comes from knowing I have people in my life who don't judge me. I am able to be myself without worry what others think because I know that the people who love me, love me no matter what I do. I've said this before and I'll say it again; when you surround yourself with positive people in your life, there's no reason not to be confident in who you are.
Do what you love, say what you feel and be who you are. If you feel like you need to change, make it a positive change. If you feel like someone is bringing you down, get them out of your life as best as you can. I don't know everything and I'm not going to act like I do know everything. But I do know that if you're not happy with your life, you have to make those changes yourself. You want to be confident, then be confident and don't let anyone stop you.
Be Beautiful For You

Pinterest Love

I recently, and by recently I mean the other day, signed up for pinterest and I have to say it can be really addicting so I'm glad I'm on a short vacation from school because this site is crazy addicting. If you haven't signed up, I highly recommend it because it is a lot of fun to put these "boards" together. I notice a lot of girls blog about fashion but don't talk about that and you can basically do that on pinterest. It's just a bunch of pictures and it's different from blogging.
Check out my boards and follow me! You won't be sorry! I pin about desserts, future wedding ideas and a bunch of other things.
Be Beautiful For You

Friday: Dating a Co-Worker; Boyfriend being the Best Friend; Girl/Guy Code

Happy Friday! I'm next week off because of Finals but I will be back on the 18th!

Anonymous Asked:
Should I date a guy if I work with him?
I am 16 and I work with a guy I think I like. One of my co-workers talked to him about me, and he says he wants to ask me out. Should I say yes? If it doesn't work out, I don't want things to get weird at a job I absolutely love.

Dear Anonymous,
In my opinion, dating a co-worker is never really a good idea. Like you said, things could get weird. Plus work is for work, you don't want to mix it with dating. 

My Guys: Trevor

I can't believe it took me this long to get to Trevor when he's been of my good friends for such a long time. All through high school, he was the first to know about many things going on in my life because I trusted him the most. He's probably the most caring guy I know. He's a big guy with a big heart. He may come off as a mountain-man but he's as cuddly as a teddy bear.
Trevor is probably one of the most talented guys I know. He knows a lot about cars and he knows a lot about music. He's rough around the edges, but has the best heart any guy could have. I love Trevor's humor and thoughts on life. I can always count on Trevor for having my back no matter how long we go without talking to each other.
The guys in my life that I mention are not only guys I enjoy talking to but I know I'll always be safe with them because they see me as a delicate flower. When I know that a guy, a friend, is protective over me, I call them a friend for life. Trevor is certainly a friend for life.
Be Beautiful For You.

Lace Shorts

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Boy Advice: How to Hug

Who doesn't know how to hug? We all know how to hug but of course there are different types of hugs. So how do you know which one is appropriate to do? And how long should the hug last?
Well, it's been said that if you hug someone for 30 seconds it means you trust them. At least that's what I've been hearing a lot lately and by lately I mean these past couple weeks.
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There's having his arms around your waist and you have your arms around his neck. Or the other way around.Which is the perfect way to hug a guy. Other then when he hugs you from behind because that is one of the sweetest things.

Who Are You?

We all have our group of friends and we all play our part in the group. Who are you in your group of friends? Are you the leader, are you the follower or are you the one who is just there because you want to be part of the group of friends? I know there are more "labels" for people in a group but those seem to be the main ones.
I personally have been each of them. The leader, the follower and that person who just wants to be part of the group. I think the hardest one to be is the latter one. I feel so lost with their inside jokes and so I'm silent most of the time. I mean in a new group of people that want me around but I'm unsure on who I am in the group because everyone has their own part to play so to speak.